Ikea yesterday, Container Store today. We are getting clients super organized!
My assistant’s best friend is getting married at the end of October, so, we’ve been a little bit wedding focused behind the scenes here at On My Agenda and wanted to share a little bit of what we have been talking about.
As a first-time maid-of-honor, Galina is super eager to be super helpful to her best-friend-in-the-whole world Adriana. Who wouldn’t be?? As Adriana was turning her attention to the wedding registry process, things apparently got a little confusing and overwhelming at a certain Manhattan Bloomingdales (and may have devolved into champagne drinking…). A few phone calls later, one meeting in Brooklyn to look over what was on the registry, and some follow up emails, everyone was back on track! A close call, but completely manageable :).
As I work with clients on organizing their homes (organizing is a huge part of design in my opinion — can’t just stuff stuff in a closet and forget about it!!), I do think about what dishes, appliances, even furniture would be smart to register for when you are getting married. When I’m reorganizing my own home, I think about that and what I am happy I did or what I would do differently.
Some advice given about what to register for is simply based on quantity — you have 400 guests, then register for 5,000 pieces so guests have choices of what to buy you. Or it’s based on quality — this is THE chance to buy THE most expensive duvet cover ever known to man because you will never buy it for yourself.
But, is that really what YOU want when the wedding hype is all over and you have to actually find a place for all of this stuff in your home? (Not to mention unpack all of the very well-packed Crate and Barrel boxes?? Eight years later, I still have vivid memories of all of that brown mesh packaging for each.and.every.single.plate.).
For all of the checklists and advice about the 10 best things to register for out there on the Internet, I think a wedding registry is actually a really personal thing, or at least should be. It’s your home, your cabinets, your entertaining style, your life. We spend so much time trying to personalize our home, that it seems odd that this first step to personalizing a home isn’t so personal at all.
I was happy Adriana turned to me with questions about what turned out to be a slightly confusing wedding registry process given that her and her fiance are living together already so have some stuff, just moved to a new apartment in Brooklyn, have about 5 cabinets in total and aren’t sure what they really like to cook together but do know they really love each other, like wine and cheese and want to cook together. Does that really mean you should register for a crock pot then?
I wanted to share (with her permission, of course!) a snippet of my email exchange with the happy Bride-to-be because I think it might be something many couples setting up their first home together struggle with — How to create a timeless wedding registry that fits my life now and in the future?
There’s no one answer but by asking the questions and being honest about what you want, how you live and how you might want to live, that can help you parse through all of the wedding registry pamphlets being thrown at you.
Oh, and don’t have a glass of champagne before you hit the Bloomingdales wedding registry. Probably better to save it for after :)
I was just updating my Crate & Barrel registry and had some (probably very silly) questions. I thought it might be useful to share my questions with you as part of this “registry consultation”. If you have time I would love your advice!
1) Is a slow cooker a good idea? I’ve heard from some friends that it can be great because you leave something cooking in the morning and when you get home there’s dinner, which sounds very practical and tempting… I also feel like it could be useful to make like a roast for a family dinner or something like that. What do you think? Are you pro slow cookers? And if I get one, should I get the bigger one (7 qt) or do you think a small one would be enough (4 qt)?
2) How do you feel about a blender? Food processor? Are those essentials or just clutter? I’ve never had a food processor before, but maybe having one would make my life a lot easier and allow me to make things I can’t even imagine right now…?
3) We ordered a dinnerware set from Crate & Barrel, that someone already got for us. I went online to look at it because we only ordered a set with 4 place-settings, so I was planning on adding 2 more (for a total of 12 place-settings.) The problem is we added it while in the store, and now that I’ve read the reviews online, people complain that the dishes chip and break and aren’t durable. So I’m wondering if I should: 1) add the other 2 sets and try to take really good care of the dishes (some people mentioned the reason the dishes broke may have been that they had put them in the microwave, which we wouldn’t do, so maybe it’s ok), 2) don’t add anything and wait until we get them to see how we feel about the dishes and then complete the set ourselves if we like them, or 3) add a different set of dishes and plan to return these once we get them?
Thank you and have a great weekend!
Hi Adri! I love your questions — this is great! Here are my thoughts:
– My first thought when thinking about appliances like a slow cooker, blender, food processor, etc. is where will you store it? If you don’t have counter space, or a place where you can easily store it and use it (they are heavy and bulky), then don’t register for them.
– Of all the appliances, I think a blender is the best. It takes up a pretty small footprint, is relatively lightweight and is easier to clean than other appliances. You can make soups (be sure to get a blender with a glass jar so you can make hot soups), smoothies, drinks, salad dressings, etc. Read the reviews for the blenders, get an extra jar and be sure to get one with glass jars.
– Save the food processor and slow cooker for a larger home. And ease you and Matt into cooking and taking on new domestic challenges. Both are pretty specific and are not used all the time.
– I read the review for the dishes. I would return the ones you got — don’t even unpack them, just get in a cab and go to the store — and use the credit to purchase another set. Besides breaking, since they have poor reviews, they likely won’t keep stocking them and will discontinue them. Even though that might not matter to you, it’s not a good way to start out. Take a look through the dishes again, reading the reviews, and see if something looks good to you. Feel free to send me the link too and I can weigh in with how that will go well with other pieces. Two of my favorite options from Crate & Barrel are the Madison and the Harper (which has little more flash to it).
Again, for basic dishes you want classic. You can always get fun accent dishes now and later.
Hopefully that helps!
It was fun to engage with Adriana about her registry and think about it in the context of her home, not just in the context of getting presents from the wedding day. I think the best thing to remember is make the registry personal and keep it fun!